Making Over Our Partners and Friends

FROM THE President

A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found the same  interests.

So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit exactly, we may try to make them over to creating our own ideal partner or friend. But unless someone asks for guidance, entering into a relationship or friendship with someone we want to change is dishonest. Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our partner or friend steps outside of that imaginary vision, we fine we are disappointed.

An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as the whole person, and find a way to share our life experiences together.  By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our friend or partner only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely. If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves.

By accepting our partners for exactly who they are, the ideal and the not-so-ideal, we will create an energetic shift in our relationships, and we may find ourselves really appreciating our partners for the first time. Working from within, we determine how we relate to the people and the world around us, and when we can accept it and embrace it all, without conditions, we make every act of relating a positive one.

Jenny Grier

Acknowledgements:Rebecca Galloway, for staffing the front desk many times in January while volunteers were scarce because of the holidays. Thanks for filling in.  

David Cliburn, Florita Dumont, Suzy Fagelson and Sheila Wilkes deserve kudos for assisting at our Annual January 1 Expo.   We could not have done it without you. To all those who brought in a dish to share that day, especially Rocky Allen’s gourmet dishes which were “to live for.”   Thanks to all who participated.   It was an event to be remembered and a great beginning to a fabulous year.  

to the 23 who renewed their subscriptions, John Gattis for his generous yearly donation and Susan Russell for renewing her subscription and an extra donation.  Please check your label on the cover for your expiration date.  We appreciate your $15 to cover our postage and printing.

Volunteering:  Please consider volunteering as your New Year’s intention and we hope your choice will be CenterPoint.  We are in need of more front desk volunteers, who can assist with registration and classes and then of course you attend the workshop for free.